"Adventures, I used to call them. I used to think that they were things the wonderful folk of the stories went out and looked for, because they wanted them, because they were exciting and life was a bit dull...But that's not the way of it with the tales that really mattered, or the ones that stay in the mind. Folk seem to have just landed in them, usually...I expect they had a lot of chances, like us, of turning back, only they didn't. And if they had, we shouldn't know, because they'd have been forgotten."

-Samwise Gamgee, The Lord of the Rings

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

The one where they go to an orphanage

Putting into words the feelings of actually being at an orphanage are nearly impossible. Every morning and afternoon we walk through these gates....


Past 'Allum' the dog, around the building...


Up these stairs...


Through these doors...


Through her groupa door....


To knock on the door to her room asking a nanny to bring her out...


Where she gets dressed for outside by a nanny on this little couch...


with clothing found in this little locker (the middle one, to be exact)...


So we can spend two hours every morning, and two hours every afternoon walking these grounds....


And playing in the small play area's with our girl to bond with her, try to communicate with her, show her how much we love her, deal with her tantrums and fight with our own unknowns...


Because NO child should ever have to grow up here. With nannies instead of a mommy and daddy. With a groupa instead of brothers and sisters. With no real free time to run about and be a child. Facing a future unknown if nobody steps forward to be his or her family.


There are no words for actually being in an orphanage. You see them in movies and on TV, you hear others speak about them, but until you actually step foot in an orphanage, you just can't understand. And we are at a very good baby house, the nannies are loving and caring, the children are well cared for, well fed, and have some therapies and montessori during the day. But imagine your child in daycare. Now imagine your child in daycare all the time. Your child sleeping in a room with 10 other children. Nobody to rock them to sleep, nobody to calm them if they have a bad dream, nobody to sleep with them on the sofa if they get sick in the middle of the night. Its not a family. Children need a family.

If you've ever considered adoption, please search your heart and soul to see if you are being called to bring a sweet little one home. If you are not called to adopt, please consider donating to an orphan waiting for his or her family. So many wait....

5 comments:

Jon and Samantha said...

Aw Becky... you had to go and make me cry ! beautifully said.

Hilary Marquis said...

You'll never be the same...but, that's all a part of God's plan. Hold your daughter close, you've made a difference to one. Keep talking, keep sharing, and you'll make a difference for the ones who wait too.

Jessie said...

Eloquent and heartfelt (and a Friends reference to boot).You had me in tears.Thinking of you all the time!

Tammy said...

WOW! I just got to read the post you have about Sveta...thank you!!! AND I love the pics with the updates on how your day goes. TOMORROW IS COURT WAHOO!!! Do you have a time yet???

Melissa said...

This is EXACTLY how I feel, except on most days here it feels like I'm leaving her at a 24/7 daycare that I wouldn't leave my dog at. You are right, no matter how great teh orphanage a child should not have to live their entire childhood in one. Kids NEED moms and dads. And anyone who doesn't think so only needs to visit one and see how the kids light up when you pay attention to them.