"Adventures, I used to call them. I used to think that they were things the wonderful folk of the stories went out and looked for, because they wanted them, because they were exciting and life was a bit dull...But that's not the way of it with the tales that really mattered, or the ones that stay in the mind. Folk seem to have just landed in them, usually...I expect they had a lot of chances, like us, of turning back, only they didn't. And if they had, we shouldn't know, because they'd have been forgotten."

-Samwise Gamgee, The Lord of the Rings

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Homestudy?

Its in the bag baby! She emailed me the draft two days ago, and it was all good, so she sent it off to be completed by the homestudy agency. I made up the picture sheets we needed and sent those off to be printed today.. those go at the end of the homestudy for the dossier before we send it off to get state certified. My doctors appt is on Tuesday, but she went ahead and sent it off to be finalized without the letter since its coming, and its just a paper needed in the packet.

So yeah... the homestudy is D O N E! :)

As for the dossier, we are basically just waiting for all the FBI stuff, fingerprints, clearance, and the I-171H, and the completed copy of the homestudy, and then the dossier is done too! Our fingerprinting is on the 6th, so hopefully they'll book thier way through thier leg of it and get our approval back soon.

Tomorrow is Halloween. The boys are going to dress as train engineers. They already have all the garb... striped overalls, hats, lanterns, whistles, Al even found my pocket watch to use. It has Mickey Mouse on it, and the batteries are dead, but hey, to a 6yr old thats a pretty sweet prop. :) We pulled out thier plastic trick or treat pumpkins today, and carved the big pumpkin when Al came home from school, and made up the treat bags for the treaters that come to our house (we live out in the country so only get 4-5 treaters, but they sure get a bagfull when they stop here though! :))

So thats that. Homestudy... check. Dossier... almost check. A family ready for thier new daughter/sister? BIG CHECK!

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Yay for family pics!

What do 6yr olds think of Mom's camera?


Neither of us seen him do this, so it was pretty funny when I opened it. I guess I was too busy trying to align my remote so it wasn't visible in the pic to see big A's sarcasm!

But we did get some good ones. I'm just happy to finally have a new family picture.... its sad when a photographer doesn't have pics of her family! The last one I took was when little A was only 1yr old!


Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Homestudy

We met our social worker on Monday night. She is very nice, really laid back, talkative, she'll fit right in. And she'll be here SUNDAY AFTERNOON!

We have most of our paperwork set. I still need to get to my doctor for a visit so he can fill out the doctors letter and have it notarized (x 2, both the homestudy and the dossier need one).

You should see my folder now. I wouldn't even call it a folder... its like a trapper keeper on crack. I'll have to take a picture of it to add to this post so you can see just how much of a geek I am. But its keeping me sane. When E asks what some form is for or where it is I can say 'let me see' and finger through my post it tabs, find where I need to be, and flip it open. :)

So the homestudy home visit is on Sunday. Do you think she'll mind the miles of GeoTrax in the living room? Or the Thomas table in the kitchen piled high with coloring books, art projects, marker boxes, and Playdoh? Nah.... but you know me, the house will be spotless, my little cherubs will be dressed in coordinating clothing, and I'll stress about something that will probably wind up to be rather enjoyable.

Left to do? File I-600A with the FBI, then get fingerprints when they send us our time. Get doctors visits and reports. Notarize our post placement compliance form, statement of home ownership, and statement of income. I think thats it, and our paperwork for the homestudy is done, and we will be about 80% done with our dossier then too! WOO HOO!

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

We need HOW MANY sets of fingerprints?

Oh and thats just for the homestudy? Good gravy... this homestudy is going to make the dossier compilation as easy as reading a Dr Suess book!

I continue to feel overwhelmed daily. Today I finally got ahold of the local police department only to get a lady who couldn't really understand that I needed the local PD to fingerprint us, and do our background check. She kept telling me that BCA could do that, I just needed to download the form online. Ok I HAVE that form, but I NEED the BPD to do it as well. Finally understood each other, I think. And I was told they could fingerprint from 7am-4pm, but the officer on duty may be out on a call so we may have to wait, but I can't call to see if he's in first, just come on in. Alrighty.

And then onto the other PD we need to run a background check on us, since you need to have one from every city you've lived in for the last 5yrs. This lady, while she fully understood what I was asking, was about as friendly as a mud pie. I'm a pretty chipper person, so when someone is rude to me, it makes me feel awful. And really, don't mess with someone who is currently NEEDING to get FBI, BCA, and DHS clearance. I really want my baby..... don't tick me off and ruin my chances. ;)

So my kitchen table is a neatly organized mess of paperwork. Each in its own pile with a sticky note stating what each needs, like to be notarized, or complete fingerprints, finish background check, etc.

After going through all that, I was reading our dossier requirements since we need many of the same documents for both the homestudy and the dossier, and a month ago the dossier seemed like such a daunting task. Now I'm thinking the dossier sounds GREAT!

Funny, anyone in the adoption world will probably laugh thier behinds off to know that I'm actually EXCITED to do the dossier.

But then I daydream... the paperwork is all taken care of, and we are patiently waiting for our baby girl. That makes it all worth it.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Why adoption?

Well I'm not exactly sure... really. Growing up I had two friends who were adopted, and at the time I wasn't completely sure why or how, but I got it, and it planted a seed that has stayed with me to this day. When E and I were first married, we talked about adoption and since all countries have a minimum age, we put it off to address in the future. After the birth of our 2nd son, we talked about it again, but again put it off because of the age limits in the country we had originally chosen.

When the baby turned 2, we really got down to discussing adoption. Neither of us can really describe WHY we feel to adopt. God is leading us here, as our originally chosen country gained long waits and uncertanties, I began researching other countries. Slowly we began to see doors closing... we didn't meet the requirements or the travel in country was 4-8wks.. which we just couldn't do andl eave the boys behind that long. As it began to look like we would just have to wait, suddenly Kyrgyzstan 'appeared', and our agency was there, and it all fell into place.

I used to watch the Baby Stories on tv and get all teary eyed when I'd see a mother give birth. We both long for a third child, but neither of us really has the desire to go through pregnancy again (though I'll admit I had very textbook pregnancies and easy labor/deliver with both). Today I was flipping channels at naptime while making a hat, and DIscovery Health had 'Adoption stories' on. I found myself glued to the TV, feeling what these parents were feeling.

I know, WE know, that adoption is right for us. Its still hard to explain to family and friends who question us as to why we are adopting. 'Obviously we can have kids... why not just have one more?' is something we've heard more than once.

Adoption is in our hearts, and we know our baby girl is out there, we just have to be patient until she comes into this world, and God leads us to her.